Sunday 31 May 2015

Whole (Psalm 138:1)

The way I get ready for a weekend at the lake drives Bernie crazy.  And truthfully, it's not very relaxing for me either.  

I start packing the boys' bags with the requisite number of shirts, shorts, and underwear.  Then on my way to the back door to get their runners and hats, I notice the vitamin bottles still on the counter from breakfast.  Oh yeah, we should bring vitamins for the weekend.  I fill up a container with vitamins, scoop up the runners and hats, and head back to the bedroom to finish the kids' bags.  But if I'm going to pack the vitamins, I may as well get the tylenol, eye/ear drops, and thermometer.  Opening the closet door and collecting those just-in-case things, I notice the sunscreen and mosquito spray.  But that doesn't fit in their bags so I take it to our bedroom to add to our bags, when I realize I haven't gotten our bags out yet.  On the way down the hallway to get our them I trip over a dinosaur and spend a few minutes doing a lap around the house picking up animals.  As I retrieve a Tyrannosaurus from under the table, I see a crusted milk puddle and the offending sippy cup.  I toss the dinosaurs, horses, and pig in the animal bucket and head to the kitchen for the mop.  Sliding the dining room table to the slide, I clean up the floor.  Lachlan comes barreling full speed at me to rescue him from Emerson's antics and wipes out on the newly cleaned floor.  I lift him to my hip, give him a kiss, and carry him down the stairs to get our packs for the lake.  While I'm taking them off the hook in the laundry room the dryer beeps.  Lachlan is ready to go play, so I put him down, pile our bags on top of the laundry, and carry everything back towards the stairs, stopping for a minute outside the storage room to think about whether there is anything else I can bring up while I am here.  All I can think of is the cooler, which is too big for this load, so up I go.  I dump the contents of the laundry basket onto our bed and start sorting.  Suddenly a yelling match has broken out in the boys' bedroom.  I find teary faces and furious eyes in a stand-off over which toys they can pack into their bags for the lake.  To make room for the toys, they have removed their clothing from their bags.  I also notice that their beds are not made.  Smoothing quilts and soothing wounds, I undo the damage to feelings and packing progress.  One of them yanks a pair of pajamas out of my hands, saying I packed the wrong one.  The right pair is missing, so back I go to sort more laundry until it turns up.  The phone rings and a friend is coming to borrow two lifejackets, whilst Lachlan has made his way back upstairs driving a car through the pile of laundry.  The right pair of pajamas in hand, I squeeze past the fort being built in the hallway and repack the kids' bags.  Except stuffies which need to go in after their naps and the movies, which I need to remind them to go choose - later, when they aren't getting along and need a distraction.  Speaking of distraction, a board game might be nice for the cottage.  I head downstairs to choose one, thinking that I'll grab the beach towels while I am down there too.  Trouble seems like a good game, but halfway there I remember that we're missing two pieces.  Sorry will do.  I find it and can't remember what else I was going to get down here.  Oh, the cooler.  Right.  I bring them both upstairs, even grabbing the dried swimtrunks on the way up the stairs where they hung damp on the railing last night.  On the top step, I remember it was the towels I was going to grab from the basement...

With this Family-Circus-esque chain of events, I sigh and recognize again that very little of me moves in a straight line.  I want to sing with the Psalmist "I will praise you with my whole heart," but my heart is as fragmented and distracted as ever.  How do I praise with my whole fickle heart?  How do I love with my whole multi-tasking heart?  How do I get my whole heart to slow down be all in one place at the same time?

Wednesday 27 May 2015

Morning Dawns

When it starts too early, my eyes are clouded already - or still.  Blinded to all but my needs and desires and selfishness.  When it starts with tears, my pulse quickens, already out of sync with Yours.  That is not the day I want.  Yesterday is not the day I want.  Papa, grab my hand and slow me down.  Stroke my cheek and lift my face.  Whisper Your marvellous lovingkindess gently into my flippant, heartless corners.  That I and they may know You today.

Tuesday 26 May 2015

Trust & Blessing

Psalm 2:12  Blessed are all those who put their trust in Him.

But sometimes stakes are too high.  Trusting Him a luxury I can’t afford.  This one thing I must hang on to.  I can do it myself.  I can do it my way.  With the increasing height of the stakes, so the pressure inside builds exponentially.  Reflecting and reassessing, I try and try again - until I cry and cry again.  Tears frustrated at failure.  Tears recognizing weakness.  Tears unwilling to trust, to yield, to surrender.  And then I see His reflection in the pool of my own weakness and He speaks words that I want so hard to believe.  

Blessed are all those who put their trust in Him.  

I try to allow my heart to feel those words, try to persuade it to believe.  But in difficult I don’t feel blessed.  In messy, complicated, hurt, nobody would call me blessed.  My critical eye has seen, my critical heart beheld.  Those who put their trust in Him, are not all healed.  Troubles don’t instantaneously evaporate.  Bumps in the road of life don’t become miraculously smooth.  Not always.  He doesn’t follow formula.

Blessed are all those who put their trust in Him.

I try to allow my heart to feel those words, try to persuade it to believe.  Maybe, just maybe what I am seeing with my eyes, hearing with my ears, feeling with my heart is not the full picture.  Could my view be subject to reframing?  Could it be that His ways are really that much higher than mine?  Maybe blessing is not as narrow as I imagine, not as shallow as I assume.  

Blessed are all those who put their trust in Him.  

I try to allow my heart to feel those words, try to persuade it to believe that my God is the one who responds to my trust with blessing.  That my God moves in response to me.  What kind of God moves in response to me?  The kind of God who lavishes on me, who revives me, who accepts my meditation as sweetness, who sets me on high, who delights in me.  I have a God who moves in response to me and it begins to bubble over in my soul.  Thank you, Papa.  Thank you, Lord.  Thank You that the moment I set my love upon You, You respond to me.  

Blessed are all those who put their trust in Him.

I allow my heart to feel His words, choose to believe their truth.  For to believe that He responds to my trust with blessing offers freedom.  Freedom from worry, guilt, fear, and the pressure of having to get it all right.  From the burden of forcing my messes into all the goodness I crave.  To believe that He responds to my trust with blessing frees me.  It frees me to live, trusting that He is more than enough for me and for those around me.  It frees me for the fullness of love, joy, peace, courage, faith.  It frees me to rest, to grow, to dream, to question, to leap.  To believe that He responds to my trust with blessing reframes my day to day, my moment by moment through His eyes and for His purposes.

Blessed are all those who put their trust in Him.

Can you try to allow your heart to feel His words, try to persuade it to believe?  Where is He calling you to trust?  What would it mean for you to trust?  What is holding you back?  Who is calling you forward?  Which words are you hearing louder?  Can you try to allow your heart to feel His words, try to persuade it to believe?

Wednesday 20 May 2015

Reframing

Lights dimmed, torches burned, and fog rolled over the castle wall, flowing across the stage and down into the orchestra pit where the ominous tone was being set by brass, strings, and percussion.  The old lady, who really wasn't, cast her spell on the prince and away the story went.  A tale as old as time, song as old as rhyme.  

An angry, threatening beast, an arrogant, intimidating hunter, and growling, snarling wolves had my 50-pound son on my lap within seconds.  Though we had paid for two seats, it looked like we'd be cozying up together.  I wrapped my arms around him and we watched, barely getting to know characters before they were locked away in a dark dungeon, attacked by menacing wolves, or at the mercy of a hideous and turbulent beast.  So much was unexpected, so much was too much.  

My little boy, the big one who can ride his bike around Bird’s Hill Park, clean the bathroom, add two-digit numbers, and use the word ‘tepid’ correctly, huddled against me.  Heart racing, body tense, overwhelmed, too scared to look and too scared to look away.

I could have stood up and carried him out.  We would have had to squeeze awkwardly past seven people to get to the aisle and then climb the stairs in the dark.  We would have lost the $40 we spent on tickets.  But that isn’t why we didn’t leave.  We stayed because I knew he could make it through and because I knew it could be worth it for him.  

And so as the intensity of music and scenes built, I saw things as my son saw them, even as I softly spoke the truths I knew.  Character after character, song after song, dialogue after dialogue, I whispered into his ear, giving context, simplifying motives, making feelings relatable and actions understandable.  My words reframing what he was living.  Bit by bit his body relaxed as he accepted that what he was seeing on the stage was not the whole story it was just a story.  He could allow himself to be drawn in, experiencing fear and unknown with the characters, or he could allow himself to believe my reframing.  To trust that maybe, just maybe what he was seeing with his eyes, hearing with his ears, and feeling with his heart was not the full picture.  To trust that I knew things he could not know.  

Forty-five minutes and numerous scenes later, he slowly started to learn the truth of the words I was pouring from my heart into his.  The act of trusting when truth seemed to contradict reality wasn’t intuitive at first.  But his instincts had urged him straight into the lap of someone who could speak truth and so he practiced listening to the voice until, almost without warning, he clung to trust and crawled back over to his own seat again.  Still holding hands, confidence rooted in someone who could reframe scary and unknown and overwhelming and dangerous.  

It’s not hard to draw a parallel from this story.  Put an uppercase S on Someone and picture yourself curled up on the lap of your heavenly Papa.  The One whose thoughts are higher than your thoughts.  The One whose ways are higher than your ways.  The One who is faithful and worthy of trust.  The One who can reframe what you are seeing and hearing and living, if only you will sit close enough to allow Him to whisper into your ear.  

Can you let Him whisper now?  Praise Him for being the One in whom you can trust, simply because of who He is.  And let Him show you where you can trust Him more.  

(If there is anyone who actually reads, I'd welcome a response.  This is a devotional I am preparing for this weekend.)

Monday 4 May 2015

Trust (Psalm 2:12)

Words are halting; my fingers slow to type.  Stakes are so high and I am never sure.  Never sure that my tired sighs won't rob him of self-worth, that an unchecked eye-roll won't make him question the depth of my love, or that another conversation about his behaviour won't make him second-guess his intrinsic value.  Could it be that a wayward word might derail his capacity for intimacy, a mistaken comparison might give way to self-doubt, or an overheard exasperation might set the course for bitterness?  What if my own blindness means he fails to lift his eyes to the One who could bring beauty from these ashes?

With the increasing height of the stakes, so the pressure inside builds exponentially.  Reflecting and reassessing, I try and try again - until I cry and cry again.  And then I see Your reflection in the pool of my own weakness and You speak words that I want so hard to believe.  Blessed are all those who put their trust in Him.  I try to allow my heart to feel those words, try to persuade it to believe.  For to believe that You respond to my trust with blessing frees me.  It frees me from worry and obsession and the pressure of having to get it all right.  It frees me from the burden of forcing him into all the goodness crave for him.  It frees me to love, trusting that You are more than enough for him.  

Father in heaven, I want to trust You to parent both me and my child.  You respond to my trust with blessing.  Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!

Friday 1 May 2015

Limitless Mercy (Psalm 103:11)

May the limitlessness of the heavens and Your mercy be the melody of my praise.
May it overwhelm my heart and be the filter of my gaze.